Friday, March 25, 2016

DEALING WITH DEATH

March 25, 2016
Good Friday
John 18-19
(prayer)
Earlier this week, I filled out my 2015 taxes.
The Canada Revenue Agency will certainly encourage all income earners in our country to fill out the required paperwork (literally or virtually) by the end of next month.
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You know what Benjamin Franklin said about the certainty of taxes. In an 1789 letter, Franklin wrote that (while there was hope for a permanence of the newly established US Constitution), "in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes".
He was trying to be funny, of course, because... taxes are NOT a certainty.  If they were, tiny Caribbean islands wouldn't have major financial institutions as their primary industries.
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There is one thing that is certain in this world... death.  Nothing that exists now will endure in its current state into perpetuity.  That is true for everything, living or inert.
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As the minister for the only United Church in town (that happens to be located across the street from one of Leduc's two funeral homes), in the last 15+ years, I have been asked to assist more than 330 groups of families and friends in their times of grief.
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We value our lives. We live to be in relationship with each other. It is how we are made.
This life we have is wonderful - full of wonder.
We all deserve to know beauty and love to the fullest possible extent.
Our bodies have evolved an amazing ability to adapt to changing circumstances.  Our minds (collectively) have discovered medicines and techniques to heal the body from many injuries and ailments.  We are living longer than at any other time in human history.  These abilities expand with every new generation.
But even with all of this... death is still certain.  Without exception.
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It remains true that the life we have in this world is fragile and finite.  Whether it is advanced age, or illness or violent trauma, every life will end.
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We all know this.  But - it seems to be a topic, that most of us avoid giving much attention.
When we are forced to (because of a doctor's prognosis, or a sad call from a loved one, or reading the obit section of a newspaper)... we will accept the finite nature of this existence.  But for the most part, we try to ignore the end that will come.
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We prefer to invest our energy in the stuff of life.  It defines us.  It fills us.
And so when death comes close, we become broken, incomplete, empty in some ways. This is true whether death has come after a long life or a short one, whether it is slowly anticipated or comes unexpectedly.
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Today is Good Friday.
The day we remember the death of Yeshua ben Yoseph - Jesus, son of Joseph - a carpenter turned teacher-healer from Nazareth in the early 1st century.
Jesus' death came about relatively suddenly.  Less than a week before hand, he was part of a small group of pilgrims who were joining thousands of other people of faith to share festival together.
Jesus and his group had made a special journey south to Jerusalem - as they had likely done before.  There was no reason to assume that this festive retreat would end in death.
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In retrospect, we can see the dominoes fall.  Early in the week, there was a protest among the money changers.  And yes, Jesus was teaching in the Temple courtyard (as many others did), but was his message really that outrageous?
In retrospect, we know that there were concerns behind the scenes about a claim that Jesus (son of Joseph) of Nazareth was a Hebrew king.
He didn't act like someone bent on political revolution, but the powers-that-be were concerned enough to look into the claims, which included seeking the assistance of one of Jesus' own followers to bring him in for questioning.
Right through to suppertime on Thursday evening, there was no obvious need for anyone to worry.
It was not until after a post-supper garden prayer - when roman soldiers and temple police were led to Jesus to arrest him - that worry entered the picture.
But - even after a surprising Thursday evening arrest - who could have imagined that (in only a few hours) Jesus' fate would be sealed and he would be included among the empire's Friday executions.
With almost no time to prepare, Jesus' friends watched him die at the hands of the Roman authorities - as a convicted traitor to the empire: with the complicity of the local religious elite. 
However you look at it, this small town preacher died because was seen as a threat to established systems of power.  By 9 am Friday morning, it no longer mattered if that threat was real or imagined.
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If Jesus was part of your life in Jerusalem that week, how do you think you would deal with that?
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Simon Peter.
He was one of Jesus' first followers.  He had known Jesus longer that almost everyone in his group other than Jesus' family members.
Peter is said to be one of the disciples to first articulate a belief that Jesus may - in fact - be God's anointed Messiah. 
Peter was part of a small group that experienced a shared vision of Jesus shining in the light of God's glory on par with great figures of faith like Elijah and Moses.
And yet, Peter had little patience for the possibility that Jesus (as the Christ) could be overcome by any human power.  Peter even argued with Jesus about this. 
It is said that Peter even tried to violent disrupt Jesus' arrest.
We should not be surprised that Peter was struck with worry and fear after Jesus' arrest.
I think Peter went in a self-preservation mode.
He had no desire to join Jesus in the governor's court of justice.  There was so much uncertainty.  Would Jesus be released?  How much deeper will the arrests go.  It was time for Peter to lay low and wait and see.
So, when his own ties to Jesus were at risk of being exposed, Peter retreated.
"I don't know him!"
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Pontius Pilate.
In the grand scheme of the vast reaches of the Roman Empire, Judea and Galilee were not the most prestigious posting.  It was a valuable piece of real estate being located at the land and sea crossroads between three continents, but the role of the local officials was simply to ensure that the Empire's military and economic aspirations could proceed with as little disruption as possible: collect taxes and keep the trade and troop routes open.  Within those limits, the local population was able to live life as they saw fit - economically, culturally and religiously.
Pontius Pilate's main purpose, as Prefect of the Roman Province of Judaea, was to maintain the peace.  As was the case throughout the Empire, this was done through a strong military presence and acts of swift and brutal justice to any threats to Emperor Tiberius' authority.
It is most unlikely that the accusations against Jesus took up much of Pirate's time and energy.  He was willing to take the advice of his lower level advisors.  If they imagined a threat, then, fine, crucify him.  Even the accused wasn't fighting it all that hard - choosing to preach about power and truth instead of begging for mercy.
One way or another, I think that the quashing of a minor threat, like Jesus, did not leave an impression on Pilate.  He brushed away as easily and washing the day's dust off his hands.  Pilate did not allow himself to care about the life or death of Jesus.  He had long ago learned to be numb to the suffering and death he inflicted.
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Mary.  John.
Jesus' mother and one of Jesus' closest disciples (traditionally identified as John, who like Peter was one of Jesus' first fisherman followers) were holding vigil with Jesus as he hung on the executioner's cross waiting to die.
I think it was a mix of...
²  their desire to support Jesus (and each other) as death came nearer and...
²  their own need to be there to accept the reality of what was happening.
Not everyone can do this: to watch death force a final breath.  But it can be the most direct means of closure and acceptance of the end of life.
And in some ways, it is an act of deep love and respect to be a physical reminder to the one who is dying that she or he is not alone as they transition from this life.
The story we heard in our fourth reading this morning shows us acts of deep compassion as Jesus' mother and dear friend don't allow Jesus to face death alone; and in that time, Jesus shows compassion as well.  Jesus asks them to see the an ongoing care for each other.  John, look after my mother as if she was your own mom.
We don't know how much connection John had with his own family.  Unlike Peter, who the Bible tells us lived with his wife's extended family in Capernaum, John may have been estranged from his family.  We are told that when John (and his brother James) were called to follow Jesus, they immediately left their family.  The gospels tell us that the brothers left their father and the hired hands right in the midst of the day's work.
They may have burned the bridges of home and family when they chose to follow Jesus.
I think that John may have lacked a deep family connection since he joined Jesus on that expedition to fish for people.
So, not only did Jesus ask John to treat Mary like a mother, he asked Mary to treat John like a son.
This beautiful compassion was one of Jesus' final gifts.
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In John 19:31, it says that the Temple authories were concerned about Friday crucifixions because... it could mean that the condemned might not die soon enough to have the bodies removed prior to the advent of the Sabbath at sundown.  The Torah would not allow for that work to be done on the Sabbath day, which would mean that decomposing corpses would be left hanging until the next week.
Whether in response to these concerns or the desires for the soldiers on execution detail to finish their work sooner, there appears to have been a practice to break the legs of those on the crosses to not allow them to support their own weight (and draw deeper breaths). 
This would hasten death.
It appears that there were those who impatient with the pace of death and longed to speed it along.
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For Jesus himself, there seems to have been a resignation that his impending death was beyond his control.
The gospels tell us that immediately after he accepts a baptism that signalled the beginning of his active ministry, Jesus wrestles with various temptations to take shortcuts and make quick paths to allow for a worry free, easy life as a preacher and prophet for God. Jesus did not succumb to the temptations of compromise to dilute his message of God's love and the work and effort it would take for people to embrace the truth of this good news.
In Pilate's judgement chamber, Jesus is tempted once again.  He could deny his gospel; to dilute his faith in the sovereignty of God and kiss the ring of the Empire.
It was true that Pilate might have released Jesus, if he would have only denounced his views on where power really lies.
But, for, Jesus, the idea of God's ruling love was greater than the breaths that were left in Jesus' lungs.
If this was it for Jesus, he would greet death with his integrity intact.
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These biblical reactions to the end of Jesus' life parallel some of the ways we deal with death.
People we love and care for fill up part of our souls.  And so, when they near the end and when they ultimately leave this life, we discover an emptiness that is palatable.
²  It literally has a 'taste' (in my experience).
²  It shortens new breaths.
²  And it aches like a deep hunger or thirst.
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We (like Peter) can do what we can to protect ourselves from worry.  We can try to minimize our involvement and hope that this makes the experience of death easier.  Sometimes it works.  Most of the time it doesn't.
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We (like the soldiers) might wish for death to be quick.  Many people would prefer not to linger - if there is no hope of quality of life.  We prefer to not have others endure our slow death.  And, it is common to have end of life directives like 'do not resuscitate' or 'removing feeding tubes and breathing assists'. 
As of this summer, Physician Assisted Death will exist (in some form) in Canada.  The debate will continue as to whose suffering  is really served by PAD: the one dying or those at bedside and how those decisions are made and by whom.
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We (like Pilate) can convince ourselves that we don't care - to allow ourselves to become numb to death's effect on us.
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We (like John and Mary) might find a lasting comfort in the practice of vigil and the deepening of relationships.
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There is no perfect way to deal with death - other that to make sure that no one (who longs for comfort) should be left to hold their grief alone.
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Death is an unwelcome, but certain, part of every life.
And along side death is... the reality of grief.
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Jesus' absolute final living act (according to John's gospel) was to quench a lingering thirst.
It provided him the strength needed to profess the completion of his message of God's compassion in all times and places.
"It is finished."

***silent reflection***

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